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Loni James boarded a flight from Washington state to London final 12 months with a duffel bag, a day pack and an unconventional itinerary.
It was late March, and her plan was easy: To journey the world and go on a date with an area in each nation she visited.
Days after she arrived in London, she swiped proper on Tinder and met a French and British twin citizen who liked touring. Pints of beer with him at a pub close to the Tower Bridge became a five-hour dinner date and lengthy conversations about earlier journeys.
She by no means noticed the person once more. However so started her journey – one with no particular itinerary in thoughts. Over the previous 12 months, James says she’s used Tinder, Hinge and Bumble to go on 34 first dates in 19 international locations, a sequence of romantic rituals stuffed with intrigue, surprises and cultural firsts.
There was the 13-hour date in Cairo through the holy month of Ramadan – her first date with a Muslim – a person who charmed her along with his beaming smile and “Pals” TV present quotes on his Tinder profile. Her subsequent date was with one other Egyptian man in Alexandria who blurted out that he was engaged and spent the date craving aloud for a previous love.
“He clearly wanted somebody to pay attention and I used to be a secure area,” James says. “I’ve had extremely intimate and susceptible conversations with folks. There’s one thing particular that occurs when folks know they’re by no means going to see you once more.”
There was a date within the Italian metropolis of Verona with a classical musician who squired her round on a scooter and gave her a nighttime tour of the town’s many historic spots.
There was additionally a disastrous date in Turkey with a person who grew to become indignant when she rejected his bodily advances and dropped her off at his paragliding store, promising to return. He by no means did. After ready for hours in a storm, James spent the night time on a bench within the retailer.

Her most up-to-date date was with a South African man in Cape City who whipped out a deck of playing cards over dinner and proceeded to do card tips on the desk.
However James, 40, says that even the dangerous dates have been memorable – and that every one of them have taught her one thing.
“Prior to now, I checked out courting as a go or fail. If I went out with somebody on a date and it didn’t finish in a goodnight kiss, or it didn’t finish within the second date, I thought of it a failure,” she says. “I don’t consider that anymore. I now notice the worth of occurring a date and being so grateful that somebody opened up and gave you their time … shared their story with you.
“I’ve realized that romance is available in many varieties,” she provides. “It doesn’t should be costly and there isn’t a sure method that makes romance occur. For me, it’s when there’s connection and intentionality. It’s the one that listens to you, who seeks to make you’re feeling particular, who desires to carry a smile to your face with a considerate gesture and the one that desires to know what you assume and seeks to really get to know you.”
James’ determination to go on a solo journey was borne out of tragedy.
She watched her mom battle early onset Alzheimer’s from age 48 to her loss of life a 12 months and a half in the past at 63. It impressed James to grab the second and launch her adventures.
“My mother and father had accomplished all the pieces proper in accordance with the American tradition. They acquired married. They raised three children … They’d good jobs … they paid off the home,” she says. “They’d massive plans for his or her retirement, however my mother didn’t make it to retirement.”
James doesn’t have children, and began saving for her journey two years earlier than her mom’s loss of life in October 2021. She moved from Seattle to Spokane, Washington, rented a less expensive house and acquired a roommate. She later bought all her issues and moved in together with her mother and father to spend time together with her sick mom throughout her last days.
She didn’t get an opportunity to share her journey plans together with her mom earlier than she died, however remembers a key piece of recommendation she gave her years in the past earlier than Alzheimer’s stole her potential to speak.
“I instructed her a couple of boy I preferred, and he or she instructed me to ensure he liked journey as a lot as I did,” she says. “That was actually impactful, that within the midst of her illness, she knew how vital that was for me … when searching for a companion.”
James’ worldwide journey has coincided with a rise in solo journey, spurred partly by the pandemic.

Google searches final month for “solo journey” have been greater than thrice larger than in March 2020 in the US.
“The uncertainty of being round others throughout a pandemic made vacationers cautious about touring in teams,” says Janice Waugh, founder and writer of Solo Traveler. “Many have continued to journey solo after discovering the advantages of solo journey similar to flexibility, freedom, and private progress.”
Whereas it’s common for solo vacationers to seek out romance and friendship, it’s uncommon up to now somebody in each nation you go to, Waugh says.
However James has thrown herself into the expertise and embraced the great and the dangerous. She stays in hostels and Airbnbs or with mates and even mates of mates, at all times leaving room for spontaneity.
“Folks will simply be on the hostel asking round, ‘Who desires to go right here? Who’s free for seven days? Do you wish to go do that?’ And also you simply find yourself with strangers in a automotive,” she says.
“I spotted that long-term journey is so totally different than simply occurring trip … for per week or two. I actually wished to lean into the tradition, and I wished to have a really totally different expertise by being on the highway for a very long time.”
James says she is up entrance together with her dates about her objective up to now somebody in every nation she visits. She guarantees them anonymity, and aside from sharing a couple of pictures, declined to supply their contacts to CNN.
Perhaps her most memorable expertise was the 13-hour date final 12 months with the Muslim man in Cairo. They shared conversations on all the pieces from on-line courting to Muslim tradition and organized marriages. As a result of it was throughout Ramadan, they shared iftar – the meal eaten by fasting Muslims proper after sundown.

“I’ve by no means had a person put a lot effort in a date,” she says of their day collectively, which additionally included visits to museums and a monastery, a journey in a rickshaw and a nighttime folk-dance present within the desert. “There was a lot meals, it was so colourful. I attempted all these new issues. Egyptian meals is wonderful.”
She’s since had dates in Jordan, Cyprus, Turkey, Switzerland, France, Italy, Slovenia, Norway, Iceland, the Azores islands of Portugal, Morocco, Tunisia, Mauritania, Senegal, Gambia, Namibia and South Africa.
She posts about her experiences on a weblog and on Fb and Instagram with the hashtag #ADateinEveryCountry, the place quite a few girls supply feedback and recommendation.
As a lady touring alone, James says she is cautious about security. She shares her location with mates, doesn’t drink a lot alcohol, makes positive her cellphone is charged and makes use of a ride-share app so she will be able to exit a date on her personal.
She communicates with males by way of the courting apps and doesn’t give out her cellphone quantity till after she has met a date in particular person. She additionally by no means permits a date to choose her up from the place she’s staying.
Waugh, the skilled on solo touring, encourages girls to satisfy dates in public locations and watch out about who they method to ask for instructions.
“I meet folks on a regular basis and I achieve this by taking step one. I feel that it’s extra probably that an inappropriate particular person will select me than I’ll select them,” Waugh says. “I select whom I speak to, the place I’m going, or the place I sit. If I have to ask for instructions, my first selection is to method a household after which maybe a pair.”
James has not but felt unsafe on a date, however she has had some irritating experiences. Males have stood her up twice: in Paphos, Cyprus, and in Cape City, South Africa.

Then there was the person in Zurich who picked her up in a Lotus, took her to dinner at an costly restaurant regardless of her objections and ordered her meals for her, together with a $84 glass of Chablis. Then he requested to separate the invoice, blowing her weekly price range.
“I do know that it sounds glamorous, and a few of my dates have been glamorous,” James says. “I’ve gone paragliding (in Fethiye, Turkey) on dates. I’ve additionally gone fishing within the Arctic Circle on dates. However I’ve been on some actually bizarre ones, too.”
James hasn’t returned to the US since she left within the spring of 2022. She plans a number of extra months of touring in Africa earlier than heading to Asia, Australia and South America.
She hopes to show her world journey right into a e-book that’s each entertaining and academic.
“Perhaps somebody’s not going to choose up a e-book about Egypt or Namibia or Tunisia. However perhaps they might be intrigued by my courting story, and in the event that they occur to study these different issues about this nation throughout that courting story, then I take into account that an enormous bonus,” she says.
“I notice Egypt perhaps isn’t on everyone’s bucket checklist, perhaps Morocco isn’t, even Namibia. Once I write about these locations, I hope it builds a curiosity … I hope the tales make folks snigger, dream and cross oceans to satisfy attention-grabbing folks throughout.”
Till then, she’ll hold touring – for at the very least the following 12 months. There’s a lot extra to see, a lot extra to do.
James nonetheless hasn’t discovered a companion. She says she’s open to having a boyfriend who lives overseas. If she finds somebody, she’s going to change to mates dates with native girls to proceed studying about different cultures. But when it doesn’t occur, she’s relishing nearly each second of her journey.
“I really like having the totally different races and religions and music and magnificence and data and background,” she says. “There’s simply a lot to be realized once you encompass your self with folks from all totally different areas (of the world).”

Assembly up with males in numerous international locations has shifted her perspective on courting, she says.
As a youthful lady, she noticed courting as a method to an finish: to discover a husband. However now, she says, she considers it a privilege to listen to somebody’s story and get to know them with out the burden of expectations.
“I’ve realized that the challenges of contemporary courting exist all over the place,” she says. “Individuals are nonetheless studying the right way to sort out on-line courting, and folks nonetheless get ghosted. Being stood up sucks, even when it occurs on an exquisite island. Your insecurities don’t simply disappear once you cross an ocean.”
James says she’s glad she didn’t delay touring till she had a companion, like she’d accomplished up to now. The previous 12 months, she says, has taught her rather a lot about herself.
“I’ve realized that I’m one of the best model of myself after I’m touring – essentially the most open and essentially the most curious,” she says. “I’m fascinated by the best way that totally different international locations method the identical issues. I’m continually reminded that there’s not one proper solution to do issues.”

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